Filial Piety: Love Thy Parents
The months of May and June honours and celebrates parents and their influence in our lives and in society as we observe filial piety. Filial piety is a key pillar in the family structure. It is a concept, a virtuous act of being good to one’s parents; being respectful and taking care of them in honour of realising and repaying to parents’ their gift of life and love for their children.
As children, it is but a small measure to provide and care for our parents as they age, gratitude for the sacrifices made to nurture their children. Filial piety inculcated to children is also viewed in our Asian society as social indicators of a person’s sense of responsibility, maturity and reliability. Such family values, passed from elders to the young, one generation to the next will sustain our future generations in leading their lives positively.
To all mothers and fathers, you are the superheroes in our lives. I like to take this moment to wish all parents a Happy Mother’s and Father’s Day.
With Heartfelt Gratitude
Venerable Shi Pu En
Metta Welfare Association
METTA STAFF LEARNING DAY 2017
22 May 2017
Our Staff Learning Day is a 1-day staff engagement program, organised to provide opportunity for staff to participate
in community work (CSR) and team activities in order to foster friendship with the communities and our colleagues.
This year, the CSR involvement was a resounding success that forged community partnership with South East Community Development Council (South East CDC) and Thye Hua Kwan @ Bedok Radiance Senior Activity Cenre.
With the active participation of 108 staff from all centres, the CSR was kick-started with goodie bag packing and distribution to two-room HDB rental units. The goodie bags comprised of items such as rice, cooking oil, toothbrush, toothpaste, detergent, body wash, dish wash and bathroom detergent. These items were hand-delivered by our staff to the seniors’ doorsteps. We also helped to check the house conditions and feedback to Bedok Radiance Senior Activity Centre.
Following that, we hosted the seniors to interactive games, songs and dance performances, put up by our staff with diverse range of talents. The event came to an end with our staff serving lunches to the seniors. We were heartened to see the smiles and joys on many faces of the seniors.
Harnessing on our mission and core values, this learning journey was a good experiential lesson aligned to the learning objectives, more importantly, for us to make a societal impact in our communities.
METTA CHARITY RUN 2017
A true hero isn’t measured by the size of his strength, but by the strength of his heart. Have a big heart and join us in the 8th edition of the annual Metta Charity Run on 26th August 2017 at OCBC Square, Singapore Sports Hub.
In a specially curated ‘Superhero’ theme run, we honour and celebrate two leagues of ‘Superheroes’. The first being, our squad of heroic beneficiaries who live their lives fully despite their disabilities and the second, our pool of magnanimous supporters – basically, people like YOU! MP for Marine Parade GRC and Chairperson of GPC for Social and Family Development, Mr Seah Kian Peng, will grace the event as Guest-of-Honour and be among the superheroes running in the 5km league. Metta will not be where it is right now without these superheroes unstinting support.
Choose from the non-competitive categories of Powerful 5km, Legendary 10km or the Dynamic Duo parent & child 1.5km fun run. This fundraising event aims to raise $180,000 and provide runners with the opportunity to be amongst like-minded participants in a gathering to go the distance for a good cause and celebrate healthy living.
The fun does not just end there. A mini carnival awaits our runners after the run. Get lucky with our Super Draw and win exciting prizes while you’re there! Join forces with us as we work towards bringing a positive impact for our beneficiaries through this meaningful event.
Fastest fingers first!
Register now to book a slot: http://www.metta.org.sg/mettarun/
There is a superhero in all of us. We just need the courage to put on the cape (and running shoes!)
Can’t join to run for us but want to do your part for charity? Now you can when you help us fundraise for the Metta Charity Run 2017 at https://www.simplygiving.com/event/mettacharityrun2017-510km
METTA CHARITY GOLF TOURNAMENT 2017
13 July 2017
Raffles Country Club
Metta Welfare Association is back with its annual charity golf tournament at Raffles Country Club. Join us in this collaborative effort as a corporate sponsor or an individual golfer. You can expect a good time, good food and good prizes all for a good cause. Nestled amidst luscious land, the golf club’s panorama blends in with the natural environment of carefully landscaped greens. Guest-of-Honour is Chairman of Keppel Fellows, Mr Choo Chiau Beng BBM.
Make a difference today to the lives of our beneficiaries and empower them to achieve their goals.
Register with us now at https://www.metta.org.sg/mettagolf
METTA CHARITY MOVIE SCREENING 2017
Date: 8 July 2017
Location: The Cathay Cineplex
Homework Can Wait. The City Can’t.
Metta Charity Movie Screening 2017
Swing by Cathay Cineplex this July to catch teenage superhero, Peter Parker as he seeks to navigate his newfound identity as the web-slinging Spiderman. Under the new mentorship of Tony Stark and the threat of a new villain “The Vulture”, Spiderman must battle to save those he holds important.
Organised by Metta Welfare Association in celebration of our 25th Silver Jubilee milestone of serving the community, this action-packed adventure movie screening aims to raise funds for Metta’s programmes and welfare services for its beneficiaries.
You can be a superhero too when you help the less privileged simply by watching a movie at the Metta Charity Movie Screening 2017. Support this meaningful movie campaign as we come together to recognize that all of us have a part to play in engendering a compassionate society to the lesser privileged.
What are you waiting for?? Get your tickets here now!!
Scan the QR code to catch a sneak peek at Spiderman: Homecoming.
*Allocated seats. Limited seats available for each category.
CORPORATE SOCIAL RESPONSIBILITIES (CSR)
Make Batik Painting Workshop Your Corporate CSR Checklist
19 May 2017
A corporate social responsibility activity checklist for companies should include Metta Alumni’s batik painting workshop coached by our youths with special needs from Arts@Metta. Volunteers from local reinsurer, Singapore Re, took back a valuable skill of batik painting and their hand-painted floral artworks at this interactive workshop. The volunteer bonded over laughter, spilled wax and batik dyes as Metta Alumni’s youths got to play Coach to their adult students for the day. They conscientiously guided them in batik painting, a skill handled with ease by Metta Alumni’s youths with special needs.
Caring For Elderly Parents
Today, 8.5 percent of people worldwide (617 million) are aged 65 and over (Cire B. 2016). The world’s elder population continues to grow at an unprecedented rate. In less than 15 years, according to Population.sg Team (2016 Aug 22), “the number of Singaporeans aged 65 and above is projected to double to 900,000”. That means the number from 1 in 8 Singaporeans today in that age group will be up to 1 in 4.
In this ageing society, caring for an elderly loved one may become a reality for many people when a parent reaches the point where living alone is no long a safe option. While caring for an elderly parent can be rewarding, it can also be completely overwhelming. If you’re relatively new to caregiving and are unsure where to start, here are a few tips to help you successfully ease into your new role and effectively care for you aging parent.
- Assess – first thing first, recognise the signs that your parent needs help in either physical or mental health. Focus on the areas like walking steadiness and gait, personal hygiene, cleanliness of the house, forgetfulness, loss of sight and hearing, incontinence, losing or gaining weight, and no longer enjoy doing what he or she used to.
- Plan – call for a family meeting to determine the primary care giver and other family members’ involvement in the long run. Come to an agreement that who pays what. Also to work out the plan that allows the primary care giver to have periodic breaks while other family members cover the duty.
- Organise – Gather important documents and information of your elder parent, such as personal details, medical and financial related. For example, parent’s IC, any health assist card, medical history or any referral letter or service contract, list of medication and dosing instruction, allergies, medical personnel’s contact details, insurance card or health insurance policy.
- Home safety – Installing some basic safety measures can go a long way to help you in caring for your loved one by reducing home related accidents. For example, install grab bars in bathrooms, set lower temperature of water heater, place anti-slip mat on steps and shower floors, put brighter light bulbs and organise power cables to prevent tripping hazards.
- Educate yourself – Find out everything you can about your parent’s condition and care needs, such as what type of medical care and therapies are needed, what to expect in terms of progression of symptoms and possible treatment plans.
- Communicate – keep the communication open throughout the caring process with your parents, medical professionals and family members about who will do what and how you can support each other.
- Be realistic – about your ability to help out and know your own limits. You should not try to do it all. For example, if the elderly parent is heavy for one person to lift, you should consider to hire help or get other family members involved.
- Explore resources – There are services that can help caregivers and their parents. Calling on community resources can help ease the responsibility of caregiving. Find out about the community services that you can tap on, such as government agencies, voluntary welfare organisations. These include home care services, meal delivery, transportation support, financial support schemes etc.
- Care for yourself – last but not least! It is normal for a caregiver to feel burnout, overwhelmed or helpless. Make an effort to give time for yourself to relax, eat well, exercise, see friends, and rest. Caring for yourself means better care for your parent.
Cire, B. 2016. World’s older population grows dramatically.
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Population.sg Team. 2016. Older Singaporeans to double by 2030
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Full-time caregiver, Mr Goh T. M. to Mdm Ho K.L, a client of Metta Welfare Association, shares about why he chose to give up his job to care for his aged mother.
Giving Back The Best I Could
My father passed away when I was nine years old. As the eldest child in the family, I left school at 16 and worked as a coffeeshop assistant. Along the way, I took on various odd jobs until I finally found a stable income as a Despatch Rider. The salary, supplemented with overtime pay, was enough to support the family and put my siblings through school.
“Who is going to look after mum?”
This was the question on everyone’s mind after Mum had a fall and was diagnosed with vascular dementia and osteoporosis in 2014. My three siblings said that they couldn’t afford to care for mother as each had to support their own families.
I had never felt so alone; it was just me against the world.
Due to her dementia, Mum required dedicated care round the clock. With the assistance of a Medical Social Worker, Mum was placed in Peacehaven Nursing Home. The monthly fees were tremendous and amounted to half my salary each month.
I visited Mum every weekend. There were moments where she could recognise me despite her dementia. The nurses told me that Mum had poor appetite. She would sit quietly in her wheelchair and rarely responded to questions. What pained me the most was the look of sadness on her face. I was left with an enormous sense of guilt.
In December 2015, I met with a motorcycle accident while at work which left my right leg with a permanent limp.
Following my heart
I took the accident as a sign. Giving up employment and becoming the sole caregiver for my mother would not be easy, but I wanted Mum to be happier being cared for in her own home, instead of being in a nursing home. She raised me and I want to give back.
Not everyone is cut out to be a full-time caregiver. While I am glad not to be juggling a full-time job with my caregiving responsibilities, I miss the work atmosphere. I miss my pay check. I miss the social interaction I had as an employed person. Without a salary, my savings were quickly being depleted.
Fortunately, Metta Welfare Association arranged for home visits by a staff nurse and social worker. The staff nurse provides regular check for my Mum’s vital signs and medication, while the social worker provides emotional support and financial assistance. Metta’s assistance has been invaluable, even arranging for the Social Service Officer to visit us at home instead of making the trip to their office.
With society’s high cost of living and limited financial resources, adult children who want to care for their ageing parents have tough choices to make. I am appreciative of the assistance and support provided by Metta Welfare Association.